You know what ‘Gets Me Going’; attention-seeking narcissists.
I just recently was involved with a team who included an unassuming person of this category. Looking back, the entire team was either listening to this individual rant or reassuring them of the EXACT same fact. “You’re doing fine, we appreciate you, don’t feel bad…” It was exhausting for everyone and wasted time that we did not have an abundance of. But the kicker is….before the project was complete, this narc decided to head to social media and make defamatory remarks for five days straight. FIVE DAYS! Even if you’re feeling bothered and do a post or two about it, that’s kind of understandable. When you rant for almost an entire week, there’s something else going on.
Narcissism is basically the pursuit of admiration due to your own ego and self-image. After doing some research, I’ve come to find that there are four main types of narcissists that exist based on Millon’s variations. Here’s a quick breakdown:
Elitist – Very self-promoting and have convinced themselves that they are superior to everyone.
Amorous – Attention seeking, feeds off emotionally unstable and naïve people.
Compensatory (what we experienced) – Dealt with hardships early on that provide a sense of superiority. Exceedingly sensitive to reactions and criticisms of others. Over reacts to each seeming disapproval. Often retreat to a delusional environment of people who support their over-referenced “accomplishments”.
Unprincipled – Opportunist who take advantage of others for self-gain. Exploiting anyone to make themselves get ahead. Extremely skilled at social influence.
Any narcissist behavior stands out and is grossly unacceptable. For those of us that have a keen eye for seeing through surface fallacies, it is draining to be in the presence of a person that is constantly playing a role with everyone they meet. There cannot exist any real effect from delayed rants from someone who refuses to acknowledge said narc.
In conclusion, our team pushed through and came out successful. Words of advice to follow; be great everyone, recognize narcs and stay far away! Thanks for reading. Cheers!
Trina Davenport, a Baltimore native, has been writing for over a decade and has an array of multiple talents. She holds a wealth of knowledge regarding media and loves to express herself through writing as well as a podcast she and her brother host. Trina’s background includes an IT degree as well as holding a four-year position as Vice President for a Baltimore Non-Profit. She also has a business called Vino Visuals that creates fine art using wine corks. She is thrilled to be a part of the OutWire family.
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